( Mar. 10th, 2009 06:23 pm)
Dear everyone in my life,

I know I talk about a lot of things that are kinda "hot button." Things that are often found in upsetting and hurtful discussions, things that tend to be divisive and angry. I spend a lot of time on these things. I have been informed, a few times, by several different people, in many different venues, that what I say and/or how I say it makes people feel guilty and attacked.

I feel I have been remiss in setting a base-line here.

I'm just gonna be blunt, cause its what I'm good at.

I have no problem coming right out and saying that someone has done something. I don't sneakily imply things, or at least I try not to. I don't always succeed but I am human. I make a serious effort to say exactly what I mean in the moment, no more and no less. If I'm attacking you, you'll probably know.

Otherwise, if it isn't about you, then don't make it about you. If you aren't sure, please ask me before jumping to conclusions, especially if you are upset at something I said, but don't just assume I'm calling you out unless I am actually calling you out.

Thank you, and I love you all!

Oh! And before anyone wonders, this was not inspired by any one specific situation, but a discussion my mother and I had about things we have in common :D My mom has all the tact of a brick, lemmee tell ya...



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