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Since I'm not big on coincidence, I figured I'd go ahead and actually do one of these fucking things.
I think that honesty is the most important quality. I don't just mean honesty in the "If you ever lie to me I'll feed your nubbly bits to my cat" way, although that way is important. I also mean honesty with oneself. If I expect to be a good partner, I have to be honest with myself about what I need, what I can do, how I feel, and what ,my limits are before I can clearly communicate those things to my spouse. If I can't tell her the truth about any of those things because I don't know what the truth is (or won't acknowledge it) then we hit a permanent impasse.
In connection with this, forethought is really important. Learning to engage one's brain before opening one's mouth *mentally kicks self*
Since I'm not big on coincidence, I figured I'd go ahead and actually do one of these fucking things.
I think that honesty is the most important quality. I don't just mean honesty in the "If you ever lie to me I'll feed your nubbly bits to my cat" way, although that way is important. I also mean honesty with oneself. If I expect to be a good partner, I have to be honest with myself about what I need, what I can do, how I feel, and what ,my limits are before I can clearly communicate those things to my spouse. If I can't tell her the truth about any of those things because I don't know what the truth is (or won't acknowledge it) then we hit a permanent impasse.
In connection with this, forethought is really important. Learning to engage one's brain before opening one's mouth *mentally kicks self*
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