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Okay, so I haven't been on here much lately. I am sorry to anyone who depends on this space for contact with me. I experienced, shall we say...total internet burnout for a little while. I stretched myself too thin, too many responsibilities to people here and not enough time. Especially not with my responsibilities in the rest of my life. So I put down everything. I didn't blog, I didn't moderate, I didn't even upload pics to my Ravelry account. I tweeted occasionally, but that was it.

I'm coming back...in bits and pieces...and I hope to be around more...but I'm thinking that I may just use this space and my Dreamwidth (same username over there) to back up my blogs and my tweets. I need to consolidate, and I don't want to leave anyone in the lurch. So for the moment, updates are probably going to stay sparse, but I am going to attempt to feed my "real" blog to here, as well as feed my tweets here. We will see what happens then.

There has got to be more to life than this.


I feel so trapped. I don't have to have a job that I love, I know better. I just want a job that I give a shit about.

And the saga of clueless hetero people being obsessed with teh GHEY SEXXORS! continues, now with added fuckery.

Amazon dot-fucking-com has decided to strip the sales ranks from TLGBQ books, which keeps them from showing up in bestseller lists and some searches, because they have been deemed "adult" material.

Someone is thinking "what about the children?" in deciding to do this, and indeed, I wonder "What about the children?"

What about the gay children?
What about the lesbian children?
What about the bisexual children?
What about the trans children?
What about the children that come from families with transitioning, transitioned and/or queer parents/siblings/other family members?

Why the fuck doesn't anyone think about them?

Cause its only about the sex right? Thats the only reason anyone is trans or queer, because of sex. Dirty steamy stinky sweaty sex. We are all just straight folk with a fetish, right? And if its about sex, then we can't have the children seeing it! Oh NO! Except for Playboy. Because objectifying women is okay, hell, standard operating procedure, and we have to train em young, amirite?

What can you do about this?
There’s a petition going here, and you can complain to Amazon directly. Their exec customer service email is ecr@amazon.com and their customer service phone number is 1-800-201-7575. Folks are trying to google bomb the term Amazon Rank (more info here). And, of course, you can boycott Amazon. I am also going to contact the company I work for (who sells our product to Amazon) and let them know that it would be a great show of support to the non-cis and non-het communities if they joined the boycott as well.

If you want more information, the first link in this post leads to a great collection of links and a great take-down of this stinky business.

I intend to do everything I can to let this company know that I don't appreciate being treated like a shameful family secret.

Note: this is cross-posted from a few places, most notably my "real" blog and one of the communities I moderate. If you have seen it already, my apologies.

I have been stewing about this for weeks. Its more conceptual than specific event-based, so its harder to articulate.

Have you ever thought about how we talk about people?

There are a lot of discussions in various social settings where certain words and phrases are dismissed as being "just a word" or "meaningless" when their problematic nature is discussed. This is a fight that I have had with even the most progressive of folk, many of whom will not acknowledge that words have power. Words define the world around us. What words we use, and what they mean to different people is vitally important, because even if a word means nothing to you, this doesn't mean it has no meaning ever. How we talk about people and things shapes our conceptions of those people and things. How we talk about them also shapes our discourse in regards to these things, and allows us to define people, often without their input.

Which brings me to what I want to talk about here: immigration, immigrants, the words we use when we discuss them and how that perpetuates racist stereotypes and myths about immigrants, and specifically immigrants who are also POC. As Liss pointed out the immigration dialog in this country is usually based in racism and she quotes Professor Ojito of Columbia University:

"The debate, as it is framed now, has become a strictly anti-Hispanic immigration battle cry. And nothing rallies this nation quicker and more efficiently than the presence of an alien. Particularly one who is also considered ``illegal.''"

( The rest is under here )

Another Note: If you are planning on commenting on this piece, please read all of the links in it first. Thank you.

If anyone here is a member of suckitupdyke, they appear to have been hacked. DON'T CLICK ON THE LINKS IN THE MOD POST THATS UP THERE NOW! It will zombify your computer. I reported it to LJ Abuse. Just be careful.

I lol'd

Breaking the silence: On Living Pro-Lifer's Choice for Women

I have to say, I am utterly shocked. And LIVID. What exactly are women supposed to do? We choose to go through with and give birth to an unplanned pregnancy? We are selfish, or stupid and deserve any hardship it causes unless we are white and financially well off. We choose to have an abortion? Then we are cold, heartless, baby-killing harpies. We choose to give the resulting baby up for adoption? Then we are selfish and/or heartless failures as women because we didn't want to follow our "maternal instincts" and become good little obedient child raisers, unless we are women of color, or poor, in which case, see point number one. We choose never to have children at all by being sterilized before its an issue? Then we are failures as women, except for WoC and poor women. Then we are just doing what we should to leave the population to the privileged.

I see no reason to play their fucking game. We will lose no matter what, purely by virtue of daring to exist while female and think that we are actually people with the right to live as we see fit.

I don't want to debate this. I appreciate that this is a difficult topic for a great deal of people, but I am going to request that this not be debated here in my space.

Holy Snapping Duck Do! I just got slapped with a wet salmon - really - I have not updated this since people stopped clapping and Tinkerbell died... You would not believe it only hurts when I laugh. I hope you still love me!.

I am flat out like a lizard drinking with finding Jesus (after someone told me he was lost), being distracted by the shiny, just generally being a nuisance to various lawyers I met recently, my day sprawls from the second I am woken by murderous Teletubbies to I am begging my kid to go to sleep or so help me God that kid will be decorating my wall, 'Duct tape still life'. I am quite the socialite. can't they see I am blogging.

I swear on the bones of my ancestors think of me as I battle mine enemies. You have my word! What do you mean you don't believe me?